This title might sound a bit cold but hear me out. This statement is about truthfulness – more specifically it's about being honest with yourself and living an authentic life. A life where you can trust yourself.
Exploring what it means to be honest with yourself over being nice to please the masses can be asked in a few questions:
Do you typically say Yes to things when you really mean NO for the sake of people pleasing?
Do you make plans with someone or taking on another project when your schedule is already so packed?
Can you trust yourself?
Do you value yourself as a top priority?
Have you silenced your own truth so you can stay within the “groups” good graces?
After experiencing an abusive childhood, I lived most of my young adult life up until recently as a people pleaser. But as I look back, I was never being honest with myself about what I wanted or needed. These things were a foreign concept to me so I didn't even know what my wants or needs were.
Carl Jung asks, “What is so dangerous in the moment about the truth that you are choosing to lie”?
Living a life outside of being honest with yourself or not being your authentic self, creates fear within and causes us to lose that spark for life which creats a cycle of unhappiness, irritability and dis-ease. It can also create resentment towards those who are living a life of truth.
So, when I say that I am not here to be liked it simply means that I have made a commitment to love myself. With all my scars and stories I choose to live with truthfulness and integrity for my needs and healing. I no longer pour from my full cup, it's my cup! But I now have a saucer under my cup and when my cup is overflowing, then I will offer you the abundance from that. But if I have nothing in my cup and that saucer is empty - then I'm not available for you.
Satya or Truthfulness is the second of the Yamas - the ethical practice of Yoga. Part of the foundation from which the yogic principles are built. I invite you to explore this Yama and ask yourself some hard questions and answer yourself truthfully.
Is my “yes” coming from a dark corner or from the light in my heart?